Sex may permeate our popular culture, but conversations about it are still associated with stigma and shame in Indian homes. As a result, most individuals who work with sexual health problems or seek out information about sex often resort to unverified online sources or follow the unscientific advice of their friends.
To dispel widespread misinformation about sex, News18.com runs a weekly sex column called ‘Let’s Talk Sex’ every Friday. We hope that this column will start a conversation about sex and address sexual health issues with scientific insight and subtlety.
This column is being written by Sexologist Professor (Dr.) Saransh Jain. In today’s column, Dr. Jains expose the myths surrounding virginity and its mythical guardian, Hymen.
The term virginity is generally understood to refer to a person who has never had sex, but leaves much room for interpretation. What counts as oral sex? If a woman has sex only with other women, is she a virgin? And so much more. Many myths about virginity are accepted as true.
Virginity has a complex history, and is often (incorrectly) linked to Hymen’s breach. Hymen is a thin membrane that covers or partially covers the entrance to the vagina. In many cultures, before a woman marries, her hymen is examined to determine if she is a virgin. The morning after the wedding, the bloody sheet is seen as a sign that the woman has lost her virginity.
Here are some popular beliefs about virginity:
Myth 1: Hymen should break when you have sex for the first time.
The biggest myth about Hymen is that when a woman has sex for the first time, she breaks down, and this results in bleeding, which indicates that she is a virgin. In fact, many women do not experience hymen rupture or bleeding when they have sex for the first time. That’s because Hymen can be stretched.
Because of this myth, many women worry about pain and bleeding when they have sex for the first time, which can make it difficult to turn. When a woman is aroused, the muscles near the opening of the vagina relax, and the vagina creates a natural lubrication so that sex is more comfortable – even if it is for the first time. Worrying about pain can cause muscle spasms and less lubrication, which can lead to pain or bleeding.
Myth 2: A gynecologist can tell if a woman is a virgin by looking at Hymen.
It is generally believed that a healthcare professional can distinguish between a virgin and a non-virgin by examining a woman’s hymen. This is far from the truth. Hymen can be stretched and her virginity condition rarely affects her.
Myth 3: Your spouse can tell you your status.
Many women worry that their partner will be able to tell if they are a virgin. The truth is that your hymen does not disclose your virginity status, and even professional medical experts cannot tell if you are a virgin or not. However, sharing your sexual history with your spouse will help build trust and improve intimacy.
Myth 4: Pain during your first intercourse only breaks your hymen.
The pain that women experience when they have sex for the first time is not usually caused by hymen-breaking. In fact, the reason he is in so much pain is probably because the woman is nervous and has trouble getting aroused and lubricated, which will lead to painful insertion; Or both partners may be inexperienced and overly anxious, leading to minor injuries. In both cases, there is probably bleeding from your vaginal tissue, not from your hymen.
Myth 5: Penetrative vaginal sex is the main marker of your virginity.
According to traditional beliefs, sex is when the penis enters the vagina. This is a vain, erroneous and inappropriate definition of sex because it is not responsible for creepy sex or other forms of expressing sexuality. Depending on these factors, whether something “counts” as sex changes frequently or not:
* Ejaculation / orgasm
This only shows that there is no single definite marker of sex. Penetrative vaginal sex is one of the many ways to express sexuality. How you define sex is up to you. Don’t let external assumptions define your virginity.